All posts tagged: Love

Why Rejection Should Be Your New Bestie

Rejection is by far one of the worst feelings out there. You apply for your dream job, do your research, network with current employees, and nail the interview. But when you go to open your email, instead of a congratulations email you receive a “we regret to inform you…” message. Cue the rain clouds, gut wrenching, and Mary J. Blige.

THE EASIEST WAY TO IMPROVE YOUR LIFE: POSITIVE THINKING

Originally published on SheLeadsAfrica.org   Picture it: Monday morning. You sit in traffic for 45 minutes just to go 10 miles. You pass your  work place as you head to a parking lot which is 5 blocks south of your office block because the usual lot  is full. As you pull up, you glance at the clock and you are now 3 minutes late; despite waking up early and leaving your house 10 minutes ahead of schedule. As you walk out your heel gets stuck and as you try to save the Jimmy Choo, the heel breaks. On your walk into work, you’re reminded that the country you live in just elected a cartoon character to be its next president (I live in the U.S., if you couldn’t tell). You walk into work, someone looks at you and allows the door to slam in your face. As if that was not enough for one morning,  you get to your desk and your co-worker calls you by the wrong name. Now, as your irritation increases, you …

To Gift or Not to Gift

This post was originally published on Adolescent.net. The holidays are among us and that means Christmas shopping. For those of us into social interaction and friendship, this usually means every December you brave retail lines in pursuit of gifts. As you grow older, it also seems like Christmas lists get longer with gifts for people you actually want to give presents to and those you feel obligated to give to. If you’re on the fence about whether or not you should spend your money on certain people, this guide will help clear things up. Your best friend’s new husband/wife that you may or may not be fond of. Sure they’ve broken up several times. There may have been a moment of panic before your friend walked down the aisle too. But your friend loves their significant other, and by default, so should you. HOWEVER, that doesn’t mean you have to spend your hard earned cash on them, or does it? The deciding factor: Is there a chance the new husband/wife will be getting you a …

How I’m Dealing With This Election.

Alcohol. I mean, how could you not. Once I realized Hilary wasn’t going to win last night, I needed something to help me sleep through the night.  A great playlist. On my way into work, as I passed a “F*ck Trump” sign spray painted across Los Angeles City Hall fear set in. My stomach was immediately upset because things are changing and its terrifying. Once I arrived to work, my coworkers looked like zombies. After Hilary’s concession speech, I felt myself tearing up. By the time my coworker started comparing the United States to Germany and Iran I had to draw the line. So I grabbed my iPod and listened to my newest playlist. 3.Talking about it… In moderation. It’s always helpful to talk about things that bother you. But I learned today, that when you talk about a touchy topic too much you start stressing yourself more. I was upset before work, but after my coworker started coming up with all of these “end of the world” scenarios I had to remove myself from the conversation. 4.Positive …

I Seem To Have Misplaced My Passion.

When I was in first grade I wanted to be a fire fighter. In second grade I wanted to be a marine biologist. By the time I reached middle and high school I wanted to be a broadcast journalist, TRL host or 106 & Park host. Fast forward to today, if you asked me what I want to be I’d respond “Successful” *cue Trey Songz ft. Drake*. It seems like when you enter college you’re forced to decide what you want to be and after you do there’s no turning back. Unless you want to spend 8 years in school with hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt, if you’re on Financial Aid like the majority of college students. More recently, however, I’ve found myself working with little passion.  I wake up and hit the snooze button to put off sitting in traffic to sit at a desk for nine hours, but I do because I need that pay check. I want a job where I choose what time I show up. I want to work on projects that make …

Romance On A Budget.

For anyone who’s ever been in a relationship in their early 20s, you probably know this struggle. It seems like every other couple is doing dinner and a movie every week while you and your significant other Netflix and chill. I just started my first full time job about six months ago while my boyfriend graduated from Stanford this past June. With both of us saving up for the finer things in life, we’re learning to navigate how to keep our relationship going while maintaining a few zeros in our accounts. Here’s how we’ve done it so far: Be Honest. Initially when my boyfriend graduated, after being long distance for a few months, our instinct was to catch up on missed dinners at places we wanted to try. Which is what we did. However, after about a month, we both realized our excursions were getting a costly. So we were honest with each other. Although honesty should be a staple in relationships, it’s important to let your significant other know what you can and can’t do. Everyone will benefit …

How I got through: Losing a loved one

I think a lot of people tend to internalize hurt because it’s easy.  As we all know, it’s easier to not think about things that upset us instead of facing things head on.  Of course, this concept isn’t new but I figure I’d vent a little. I lost my aunt (She’s the gorgeous lady in the featured image. That’s me with the duck rain coat) in June 2015. The specifics dates I purposely didn’t remember because who wants to wake up on June whatever and remember that…but maybe that’s my issue…I digress.  She had cancer. I’ve experienced death before with both of my grandmothers, but not quite like this.  There’s something especially troubling about losing someone when you don’t expect it.  My aunt was in her late 50s. My particular issue with “dealing” with this loss is that it lingers.  Almost like a lingering headache that you can tolerate mostly but every now and then its stronger than usual. Just like a headache, pain has its triggers.  For me, it’s hearing my mom discuss her sister or …